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February 1, 2012

February Means Desperation Day… Oh – And Valentine’s Day Too

Barney Stinson

“Loneliness… the looming specter of Valentine’s Day fast approaching… the two key ingredients to my favorite day of the year – February 13th, Desperation Day.

Much like Valentine’s Day itself, desperation day dates back thousands of years; weddings were forbidden under ancient Roman law, so St. Valentine performed them in secret, under threat of death. And right by St. Valentine’s side was his best bro, St. Desperatius, there to pick off insecure bridesmaids. Every woman wants a date on Valentine’s Day. That neediness reaches its climax on February 13th – a magical night when a 10 has the self-esteem of a 4, and the depraved enthusiasm of a 2.”

~Barney Stinson, How I Met Your Mother – Season 6: Episode 16~

Barney’s “Desperation Day” is now even defined by Urban Dictionary as “The day before Valentine’s Day on which single people try desperately to find someone to spend Valentine’s Day with. Considered by some men (and women) to be the best time of the year to pick up someone for a one night stand.”

In my opinion, this holiday sounds much better than its romantic counterpart. Sure, we (as women) all like to be in relationships on Valentine’s Day, and go out to nice restaurants, and get flowers, and chocolates, and so on, etc. Even though I believe Valentine’s Day is a greeting card holiday, it’s nice to spend some time with your significant other and do something special together.

But when you’re single, Valentine’s Day is just a big slap in the face. All you see all around you is happy couple, after happy couple, after happy couple (who just got into a fight and broke up). All it does is remind you that you are alone and not as happy as you could be or want to be.

So this year, rather than sitting around moping and wallowing in self-pity at the fact that I am single, I am embracing the greeting card holiday. I will be embarking on a limo bus tour to 3 different wineries with 8 of my closest friends, on February 12th, the day prior to “Desperation Day”. Let the drunken debauchery ensue! Then, I plan to take full advantage of “Desperation Day”… now to just find myself an unsuspecting, willing victim. Finally, on Valentine’s Day, I’m going to do what any other single girl would do: curl up on the couch with some wine and chocolates, armed with a box of tissues while watching cheesy romance flicks (think, The Notebook) with my best friend, as we ponder why on Earth we are still single. I think it’s the perfect mix of alcohol, fun, no-strings-attached sex and romance over a three-day period.

But for my readers who are happily in a relationship, I have also compiled a list of awesome Things To Do On Valentine’s Day, in case you needed any ideas or inspiration.

Or you can always check out The First Date List and see if anything sparks your interest as well.

February 1, 2012

Things To Do On Valentine’s Day

Happy February everyone!

Now for most people, the first thing that comes to mind at the mention of February is the dreaded Valentine’s Day. This can strike fear and panic in anyone – in a relationship or not. If you’re single, you should definitely check out my latest blog, “February Means Desperation Day… Oh – And Valentine’s Day Too“.

But if you are in a relationship, you have a totally different set of worries: what to get your significant other, where to eat out, and the ultimate stress – how much of a dent is this going to put in your bank account? Even if you have all of the above things planned out, if you happen to be the type who procrastinates, reservations are hard to come by on this romantic, greeting card holiday.

But fear not, I have compiled a list of things you can do for Valentine’s Day the break the monotony of a fancy dinner date. These things can be done in lieu of, or in addition to, anything you already have in mind. Some of these ideas are pricey, while others will barely affect your budget – so choose the one that’s best suited for you and your sweetheart.

1. Watch the fireworks at Sea World as you enjoy a bonfire on the beach.

Cost: $0

2. Indoor Go Kart Racing at K1 Speed or Miramar Speed Circuit.

Cost: $23 per person, per race (special deals also available)

3. Gondola Ride around Coronado.

Cost: $125 – $175 (price increases closer to Valentine’s Day)

4. Mini Golf at Boomers.

Cost: $12 per person every Tuesday and Thursday for unlimited arcade games and mini golf

5. Enjoy a champagne Hot Air Balloon Ride over Del Mar as you watch the sun set.

Cost: $205 per person

6. Wine Tasting tours.

Cost: $125 and up

7. Horse drawn carriage ride on the waterfront.

Cost: Contact for quote

8. Relaxing spa day with a tandem massage.

Cost: Varies by location

9. Hike Cedar Falls and swim under the waterfall.

Cost: $0

10. Stay in, make dinner, rent a movie, and cuddle on the couch.

Cost: $0

No matter what you choose do to, try to remember that Valentine’s Day is a greeting card holiday, designed to rob you of your hard-earned money. Instead, focus on the person that you care about – it’s the time spent together on this day that should really be in the spotlight – not how much you spend.

December 23, 2011

The Pros And Cons Of Holiday Dating

It’s no secret that the holidays can be a rough time for people. There is so much coordinating of family and friends and work; conflicting schedules with numerous families between work and personal time; trying to plan parties, trying to attend parties; and then there’s always the stress of gift giving (which largely involves monetary woes). Often times, people break the bank in an attempt to impress their loved ones with lavish gifts, or rack up their credit cards and allow their “future selves” to deal with it. All of these things are difficult enough to deal with, but it’s exponentially harder when you are involved with another person in a relationship.

All of the aforementioned only adds to the stress that a relationship entails. Perhaps this is a reason that many relationships fail around the holidays. When people get overly stressed, we tend to not be so nice to be around… a person’s true colors are exposed, and often times are not well received by the other person in the relationship. Some couples try to tough it out through the holidays, while others cut their losses regardless of the repercussions of being single during the holidays.

Regardless of your status this year (whether you are single or hinged to someone else), I decided to make a list of pros and cons about relationships (or lack there of) around this time of year. Hopefully, you will agree with some of these and, who knows… maybe you’ll find something else to be thankful for this year.




  • You get to have the companionship of someone you care about;
  • You are likely to get laid;
  • You are (almost always) guaranteed a kiss at midnight on New Year’s Eve; and,
  • You are probably guaranteed a gift from your significant other.


  • You have to deal with not just your family, but theirs too;
  • You have to spend additional money for gifts for your loved one and their family;
  • You have twice as much stress juggling two families (if not more); and,
  • Potential for more arguments over stupid things which can destroy a relationship.




  • You only have to deal with one family – your own;
  • You have more time to spend with your friends;
  • You get to save money on gifts; and,
  • You don’t have to deal with anyone else’s stress except for your own.


  • You feel like you’re alone. Yep that’s about it.


I’m sure I left a bunch of things off of those lists, and I’m sure each of you could come up with additional pros and cons to each. But the reality of the situation is that being single really isn’t that bad during the holidays. You have more free time to yourself and your family – which is really the most important thing about the holidays to begin with.

If you are currently in a relationship, be cognizant of the fact that many relationships fail around this time of year due to undue stress and how each partner deals with it. Try your best to keep communication and compromise open and honest. Try to avoid dealing with a potential break-up during or after the holidays. It is way more emotionally devastating to try to deal with that this time of year.

If you are starting out in what could potentially be a relationship, this is a good time of year to evaluate just what you mean to the other person. Both men and women make time in their busy lives and schedules to be with the person they are interested in. If they are making excuses as to why they can’t spend time with you over the holidays, then its a good indication that you don’t mean much to them and aren’t very high on their list of priorities.

If you are single, keep in mind that there are people in your life who LOVE you, and always have. Keep your ties to family and friends as tight as possible. Realize that there are still things to enjoy about the holidays even if you’re not with someone special. If it takes someone else to make you feel special, then you aren’t ready to be in a relationship to begin with. Yes, it’s the old cliché saying of you have to love yourself first. Enjoy the time you have being single, and remember that not everyone stays single forever.

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