Posts tagged ‘Sexuality’

January 28, 2012

The Real Reason Men Love Sex


I continue to find topics to write about that are not just informative for my readers, but they end up being extremely insightful to myself as well. An article I just came across simply began with “You already think you know why men love sex, don’t you?”. Naturally, the first thing that popped into my head was: “Because it feels good…?” The author had determined that most women would automatically answer with something along the lines of: “Because they’re horny, rutting pigs”.

To my surprise, there is a deeper underlying reason as to why men love sex…

“It’s true, sometimes [they] just want you naked on the kitchen table for the sheer fun of it, and sometimes [they’re] so turned on by you that the “ending” is [their] ultimate goal, but that is not why [they] love the act of having sex or why [they] always seem to be trying to get into [our] pants.

[Men] want something much more important than a great orgasm when [they] have sex, although a great orgasm is always a nice bonus.

The reality is that [their] emotional needs get met when [they] please [us].

Men love sex because it makes [them] feel like men.

When [they] see [their] woman lying on the bed shaking, exhausted, and completely fulfilled, [they] have all the assurance [they] need in life about [their] worth and abilities.

There’s not much this feeling can’t solve for [them].

  • Stress from [their] boss
  • Money issues
  • Family discord
  • An upcoming deadline
  • A painful past

…are all pretty much dissolved when [we] are screaming [their] name and losing [our] capacity for lucid speech.

Why else would [they] always try to convince [us] to come to bed with [them] when [we’re] stressed? It works for [them]!”

Apparently, women are men’s “best form of therapy” and we have “the ability to remove stress, make [men] feel invincible, and bring about [their] happiness without having to leave the house or spend a dime”. The author goes on to say that there are men out there “that need [our] emotional support.”

You can read the full article and more here: http://humansarestoopid.com/mistakes-women-make-why-men-love-sex/

 

 

January 25, 2012

Date 7 Of 30: Friends With Benefits


Friends With Benefits is defined by urbandictionary.com as the following:

Friends (With Benefits)

“Two friends who have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogamous relationship or any kind of commitment.”

For some people, a friends with benefits situation is very tough to handle because they are often misled (due to lack of communication of their intentions) and emotions get involved. Others are more than ok with this notion, as long as boundaries are established upfront. Recently, I asked 10 women if they would be ok with something along these lines (1,000 Hits! You Guys Get A Sex Questionnaire!), and the result was a 50/50 even split. I reside in the 50% of women who are ok with FWB, and recently have come to find myself in a situation such as this as a result of Date 6 of 30: Age – Is It Really Just A Number?.

Now although it’s true, I would really love to be in a relationship (in general – not necessarily with this person), I have biological needs that have to be met. I’ll admit it – I like sex… a lot. Just because I’m single, doesn’t mean that I’m going to practice abstinence. But it also doesn’t mean I’m just going to have sex with any guy that comes my way either. That would make me a whore – which I am proud to say, I am not.

I actually have a very high opinion of this person – especially for the fact that he is mature enough (despite his age) to identify what he wants (and doesn’t want for the matter, i.e. a relationship) and was able to communicate it clearly to me upfront. This is EXTREMELY rare to find in a guy because many of them will try to keep you on their “hook” (yes, that’s a “How I Met Your Mother” reference)

How I Met Your Mother

just so that they can continue to get what they want out of it, never stopping to think about how it will affect the other person involved. This is how some people are misled into thinking that there is relationship potential out of a FWB situation – emotions get involved, people get hurt, then there becomes an awkward resentment in the end when a relationship fails to evolve.

The prospect of truth and honesty from this person, is absolutely priceless to me. I’ve always said I’m fine with FWB, but it has to be made clear from the get-go. So now that boundaries have been established, I’m actually quite excited about this whole thing. I’m definitely sexually attracted to this person and I truly enjoy both the physicality of this friendship as well as the friendship itself (on a platonic level). And besides, if I can’t find Mr. Right just yet, there’s nothing that says I can’t have fun in the meantime with Mr. Wrong…

January 21, 2012

1,000 Hits! You Guys Get A Sex Questionnaire!


Recently my blog reached 1,000 hits – which may not seem like much to a lot of people, but to me it’s a big deal because my blog has only been active for less than 2 months. Seeing as my most popular blogs are the Q&A style blogs, I could think of no better way to say thank you to my readers, than to reward them with the exact thing they like the most – SEX QUESTIONNAIRES! Enjoy guys!

We asked 10 men some rather provocative questions regarding their preferences in the bedroom. These are their anonymous responses:

 

1. Would you rather have a hand job or a blow job?

Hand Job: 0%

Blow Job: 100%

~100% of the men we surveyed said that they would much rather prefer a blow job over a hand job. To them, it simply just feels better. Time to practice your ‘O’ faces, ladies and get to sucking…

 

2. Would you rather have the girl on top or bend her over doggy-style?

Girl On Top: 60%

Doggy Style: 40%

~According to 60% of the men surveyed, there are more positions that can be done with the woman on top.

 

3. Would you rather have vaginal sex or anal sex?

Vaginal Sex: 90%

Anal Sex: 10%

~Even though men may be open to the idea of anal sex (some may even thoroughly enjoy it), 90% of the men surveyed would choose vaginal sex over anal sex, when forced to choose one or the other.

 

4. Would you rather have a submissive woman or a dominant woman in bed?

Submissive Women: 70%

Dominant Women: 30%

~70% of the men surveyed prefer to have their women play the submissive role. I think this allows them to feel like they are in control.

 

5. Would you rather go down on a girl or finger a girl?

Go Down On A Girl: 90%

Finger A Girl: 10%

~An astonishing 90% of men would rather perform oral sex on a girl – NICE!

 

6. Is it ok to have sex with a girl who is on their period?

Yes: 100%

No: 0%

~Apparently 100% of men surveyed are more than ok with the notion of having sex with a woman who is on her period. It seems that women have more of an issue with it than the men do. In some cases, men find it more enjoyable. Time to hit the showers for some no-muss, no-fuss fun that can be washed down the drain.

 

7. Do men fantasize about other women during sex?

Yes: 40%

No: 60%

~Almost a 50/50 result… some men prefer to stay in the moment while others would prefer to fantasize about their favorite super model.

 

8. Girl that is clean-shaved or groomed?

Clean-shaved: 80%

Neatly Groomed: 20%

~Bust out the razors… or perhaps the Brazilians!

 

9. If you fool around with a girl do you expect to have sex with her?

Yes: 60%

No: 40%

~If you get a guy worked up, chances are he’s expecting you to relieve some of the built up pressure that comes from fooling around with you…

 

10. Do you like having anal play done to you?

Yes: 30%

No: 70%

~Most men were disgusted by this thought. However, those that responded that they enjoyed it, agreed that it’s ok – just as long as you’re not trying to shove a 12 inch dildo up their ass.

 

 

To keep things fair, we asked 10 women questions that were somewhat similar to the men. This also allowed us to compare preferences on the same situations. Here are the women’s anonymous responses:

 

1. Would you rather be on top or missionary style?

On Top: 50%

Missionary: 50%

~Depends on the girl, to be quite honest… Some get theirs on top, while others get theirs in a more old-fashioned sense.

 

2. Would you rather give a hand job or a blow job?

Hand Job: 20%

Blow Job: 80%

~Most women feel a sense of pride or accomplishment after performing oral sex on a man… ESPECIALLY if we get you off in the process.

 

3. Would you rather have rough sex or gentle sex?

Rough Sex: 60%

Gentle Sex: 40%

~To be clear, rough sex can entail anything and everything from handcuffs, hair pulling, choking, spanking, etc. and sometimes more. But the women that preferred gentle sex, like the emotional connection that can come from having sex.

 

4. What matters more – length or girth?

Length: 10%

Girth: 90%

~Now to be fair, most women would say both. Why? Well… because why not? If we could have both, we would… but since we can’t, if we were forced to choose one over the other, we could care less if you’re 5 inches long or 12… Girth does the trick for us.

 

5. Would you rather dominate or be dominated?

Dominate: 0%

Be Dominated: 100%

~Women are submissive by nature. I can’t speak for everyone, but as for myself, I agree with the 100% of women surveyed. I am somewhat of a control freak in every aspect of my life… EXCEPT for the bedroom. That is the ONE place I’m ok with relinquishing all control.

 

6. Do women fantasize about other men during sex?

Yes: 20%

No: 80%

~Most of the time, if a girl likes you, we aren’t thinking about anyone but you.

 

7. Are you ok with a Friends With Benefits situation?

Yes: 50%

No: 50%

~Be up front with women! If you see nothing or want nothing more than a FWB situation, TELL THEM UPFRONT! Otherwise, you are allowing their emotions to develop and it’s a slippery slope from that point on.

 

8. Do you enjoy watching porn?

Yes: 80%

No: 20%

~80% of women are ok with porn… this does not necessarily mean they want to watch it WITH you, but when it comes down to fulfilling the biological need of self-pleasure, yes… women do in fact enjoy porn. (That or we at the very least get a good laugh from it…)

 

9. Do you like role-playing?

Yes: 60%

No: 40%

~Sometimes it can be fun to dress up and be someone else for an evening. It just boils down to personal preference.

 

10. If you were to have a threesome, would you rather it be Male/Female/Male or Female/Male/Female?

Male/Female/Male: 10%

Female/Male/Female: 90%

~Guys… this is your dream come true right here… If a threesome were to ever occur, 90% of women would rather have a second girl in the mix over a second guy.

 

I hope you guys enjoyed this questionnaire – I will be sure to do more in the near future. In the meantime, if you haven’t checked out my other surveys and questionnaires, you can find them here:

We Asked 10 Guys… They Answered

We Asked 10 Women… They Answered

A Little Game Of “Would You Rather” – The Men Answered

 

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